The Key To The Universe

I started writing in 3rd grade, in a pink Barbie diary that had a tiny brass key, which I promptly lost, so I had to pry it open with pliers. No longer able to lock up my words, I was faced with the writer’s dilemma – would I write real and raw or clean it up for the consumption of others?

I tucked the diary beneath my socks and bravely wrote about my secret infatuation with Kirk Smith, the boy across the street with the silver tooth. I lamented about being left out of tetherball games and being last in the schoolyard picks. I wrote terrible poems about tortuous teachers. Mostly I doodled.

I worked through adolescent angst in spiral notebooks that I buried in the back of my closet. I wrote about the icy silence between my parents, their eventual divorce, the heartbreak of fractured friendships and all the awkwardness that is middle school. I might have doodled some hearts with Kirk Smith’s name in the middle.

For many years, I believed my thoughts and words were best kept stored away in my head until I realized that they were making me toxic. I realized that writing is the way I process life and so I started blogging. I’ve blogged on and off for the past 5 years in this sort of pattern: I love blogging! I love writing! I am such a narcissist! Why am I doing this? This is terrible! I have nothing to say! I have something to say! The world needs to hear what I have to say! I am prideful! I should be more humble! I will quit! I will start! I will quit! I will start again!

I exhaust myself.

Welcome to my war. The war of words, the war of art, the art that demands to be born no matter how deep we bury it. Unlocking our vulnerability is the key to the universe. I show you mine, you show me yours, and we are both less lonely.

What is it that you need to unlock? Let it out my friend, the world is waiting.

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12 thoughts on “The Key To The Universe

  1. Beautiful! Authenticity is such a beautiful trait! I see you as such an authentic person, being real and encouraging others to as well. Keep believing in your gift so we can all continue to share it.


  2. Oh my gosh! I had a crush on Mike Sterns in the 3rd grade and HE had TWO silver teeth and the cutest smile!! I had a similar diary but with flowers and after some time lost the key and had to cut thru the thick plastic strap that protected all my secrets. Yes, writing is a good friend, but I am so thankful, and I’m sure you are too, that now I can just tell it all to Jesus – and ask him to come crash my pity party and chase out the Liar. Thanks for encouraging us to release our hard stuff to others and to Jesus.


    1. haha linda! that is so funny. silver teeth – no one would be attracted to that these days. that is a good word – releasing our hard stuff to Jesus!


  3. I’m looking forward to accompanying you on this journey, Cara, learning more about you, more about me. Just to show how far ahead of me you already are, I just this month learned to embrace my vulnerability. This silver tooth fascination has me baffled, tho. I love, love, love you, beautiful daughter.


  4. It has been such a joy to accompany you on your writer’s journey thus far. I so appreciate your incisive, candid questions and openness and raw vulnerability. You do have something to say. I am so glad you are starting to say it again in a public forum!


  5. Read this last week while driving(passenger seat, of course). You are a great writer and somehow you always bring others in on your journey dear friend! We can’t escape your challenges!


  6. Oh dear lovely Cara- thank you for your words! I’ve been battling blogging myself on topics about kids and adoptive families but I continually hear in my head that I have nothing anyone wants to listen to. Thank you for putting yourself out there and encouraging us to do the same. I wish I lived closer to you.
    Love much and keep them coming
    Ps. I didn’t forget about our call. Life just happened 😜


    1. thank you sweets! you definitely have much to teach us friend on what love looks like. i’ll keep bugging you about it – it is my spiritual gift 🙂 i get the life/phone call thing. these are the days of our lives.. xxoo


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